'She said a lot of stuff...but I, well, just don't care?': Woman asked to financially support her brother's ex-wife despite barely knowing her

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    Font - AITA for not wanting to be involved in my brother's divorce? I am so confused here. I can't decide if I'm setting a reasonable boundary or being a cold-hearted To try to condense a complicated dynamic into a few sentences: my brother and I have never gotten along. We have very different values.
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    Font - I am five years older than my brother. I work a blue collar job, as does my husband. We have one toddler. My brother is an "entrepreneur" who bounces from project to protect. When he was twenty-three, he married his wife. I was engaged at the time, but my now husband wasn't invited. I barely knew this woman then, so I didn't care. I was just there for appearances. Over the years, I have seen this woman only at family gatherings. She was never hostile to me, but we have nothing in common a
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    Font - My parents told me about the divorce, and I didn't have much of a reaction. She reached out to me and told me they have no money. This doesn't surprise me. She told me my brother ruined her life and she needs help financially and with childcare. I told her I was sorry, that I was willing to have my nephews and niece visit me, but I wasn't going to give her money and didn't want to continue to have a relationship with her (not that we ever really had one).
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    Font - She told me that women support other women. My brother ruined her life, and I need to help her. She said a lot of stuff about gender and my family and a ton of other stuff but I, well, just don't care? I have my own life and family. Does that make me cold? Am I an
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    Font - Remruna 25 min. ago That "women support irks me. women So just because you and I share the same kind of genitalia I'm suppose to support your unconditionally? I think not. And if that is how it should be, where does it stop? Am I supposed to bend over backwards for that rando woman on the street asking me for my car keys? Am I suppose to defend Rosemary West's despicable action? Because women support women.....
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    Font - NTA. You got your own family to worry about. Your brother and his ex can sort their own out.
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    Font - procrastinating_b. ΝΤΑ 2 hr. ago Aficionado [15] Unless you know your brother was abusive and this was her only way out, I really can't call you an for not giving a basic stranger your money.
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    Font - Cobixnm 56 min. ago NTA.. Women support each other by being there and helping but not financially. You did your part in offering to help every so often with her kids but you don't owe her money. She needs to go after your brother not you.
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    Font - ChapSteve711 . 2 hr. ago Judge, Jury, and Excretion... NTA. You're both women. So what? This is not your problem. If she needs help, let her find it with her own family. Especially if she wants money.
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    Font - Schulle2105 2 hr. ago Aficionado [13] NTA you don't have any obligation and that women to women is seist and pretty stupid what is with her own family why does she go after the family of her soon to be exhusband?
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    Font - AHOY FunkU247365. 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA - It is not your responsibility to financially support her...... plain and simple as that! Your Brother has an obligation to his kids, and hopefully he lives up to that. But the whole "women have to support each other" thing..... has she ever supported you? NOPE!
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    Font - Slight Development45. 1 hr. ago Nta. Help to give the kids as stable a life as possible, but other than that tell her to pound sand
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    Font - cassowary32 22 min. ago Partsipant [3] NTA. Interesting how "women support women" only when she needs something from you. Sounds like she's been just as bad cultivating other relationships with women if she's trying to lean on you for money after having very little to do with you in the past. Where are her other female friends? Where's her family in all of this?
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    Font - Individual-Diver-660. 2 hr. ago NTA. Look, we don't know the ins and outs of what's happening, but from what I've read, she's guilt tripping you.
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    Font - pugseymay. 2 hr. ago NTA she didn't talk to you or make an effort with you before, but now she wants something she does.

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